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Does God give you more than you can handle?

confusion-clipart-k7863536“God won’t give you more than you can handle.” Ever heard that? Yeah, me too.

Very comforting right? Well, yes, if things turn out the way you hoped. But what if they don’t? What then? What if the cancer doesn’t get healed, the addict doesn’t reform, you do get laid off, the business goes bankrupt, your spouse does leave….? What then?

Kathy Howard addressed this at our Pathway Church’s women’s retreat. Some women were surprised at what she said. So surprised they had to go home and study the passages themselves. Why were they surprised? Because they had been told and had believed the misquote, “God won’t give you more than you can handle.”

Read Kathy’s blog (reposted below or in the original here) and inform your own thinking about what the Bible really says:

You’ve probably heard – or maybe you’ve even said – “God will never give me more than I can handle.” Sounds really good but there’s just one problem. The Bible doesn’t teach that.

Many people point to 1 Corinthians 10:13 to back up this “Christian teaching.” But is that what Paul meant when he wrote: “God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear?” Let’s pull back and look at this sentence in the context of the larger passage to find out what Paul was talking about. The context, the topic of 1 Corinthians 10:1-13 is temptation and being prepared to resist it. Keep reading to discover the real promise found in verse 13.

At the end of chapter 9, Paul encouraged the believers in Corinth to practice strict spiritual discipline like he did. Take note of the “for” in 1 Corinthians 10:1 (NIV). Paul wanted them to be self-disciplined because he did not want them to follow the bad example of Israel in the wilderness who gave into temptation and disobeyed God. Because of their disobedience that generation died in the desert and never entered the promised land. Their story was recorded as a warning for the Corinthians and for us (1 Corinthians 10:11).

Then in 1 Corinthians 10:12-13, Paul elaborates on what we should do instead of giving into tempation and falling into sin. Here are three truth points for us from this passage:

  1. Thinking we are too strong to fall into sin makes us vulnerable. We must keep up our guard.
  2. No temptation will come our way that hasn’t already been part of the human experience. We won’t be tempted with something “new” or “unusual.”
  3. God is faithful. He will not allow any temptation to come our way that is too great for us to resist. He will always provide a way for us to say no and the strength to bear up under the pull of sin.  

Okay, did you see that? Number 3 is the real promise of verse 13. God will never allow us to be tempted to sin beyond what we can resist.
So what about this question: “Does God ever give us more hardship than we can handle?” The short answer is “yes.” But let’s turn to another one of Paul’s letters for a more in-depth explanation.

In his second letter to the believers in Corinth, Paul wrote about hardships he experienced in Asia:

We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about the troubles we experienced in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. 2 Corinthians 1:8-9, NIV

The same biblical author that wrote 1 Corinthians 10:13 also wrote 2 Corinthians 1:8-9. Paul knew that God would allow him to experience more hardship than he could bear. He had lived it. He had pressure in

Asia that was far beyond his ability to endure.

Why? Why did God allow Paul – and why does God allow us – to experience trials and difficulties, grief and pain, more than we can bear? So that we will rely on God and not on our own strength and power.

Hear Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 1:10:

He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us. 2 Corinthians 1:10, NIV

When we are unable to deliver ourselves, God is able. We we are unable to stand up under the pressure, it will be God’s strength in us.

No, God does not promise that He will never give us more than we can handle. Instead, He holds out His hand and tells us to lean on Him.

Have you ever misunderstood the promise of 1 Corinthians 10:13? What comfort can you take in the real promise?


Christian writer and speaker trying to follow God one yes at a time.

5 thoughts on “Does God give you more than you can handle?

  1. Phew, I agree, Connie. I’ve been asking God, “Why?” lately, and telling Him that this is too much to handle. In my mind I know the answer – I know I need to lean on Him, but it’s difficult to trust.
    Pam M.


  2. Thank you Pam, for being transparent. I am sorry you are in a circumstance that you find unbearable and I pray that you are able to lean on God and continue to trust Him to be with you every step of the way. Even though we all ask “Why?” from time to time, life teaches us that “why?” seldom gets a good answer. Some things we won’t understand. Ever. However, God does tend to answer the “What now?” question if we can find our way to ask that instead. I feel for you and pray for you at this time.


    1. Thank you Connie. I never thought that God would give me more than I could handle, just like y’ou described in your post. But He has, and I agree that it is futile to ask ‘Why?’, although sometimes I get bogged down with that. “What now?'” I am forging ahead with my life, trying not to worry, and at times I just have to ‘Do it numb’ without feeling. Like we say, “Do it afraid’, I am doing it numb. And it’s working for now.


      1. I hear what you’re saying Pam. I spent many years in numbness while I was in spiritual wilderness. Thinking I had lost my faith, I felt dead spiritually because I felt abandoned by God. However, when I became aware that He was pursuing me — had never really stopped pursuing even though I was blind and deaf to it — I realized that what I thought was “dead” was actually “numb.” I can say that numbness isn’t forever. At least that was my story. I pray that you will see/hear/experience the pursuing God and that you would follow Him out of numbness one yes at a time. That is my hope and prayer for you Pam.


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